Gentleness Wisdom Empowerment
If you are here, you are a seasoned (like paprika) individual in mid-life or better (and even sweeter) or a mature younger person.
You are determined to overcome personal limitations, to tap into infinite creativity and talent and to make a difference.
What inspires you is cultivating true wisdom, a conscious, wholehearted and joyful life, and playful humour – not taking yourself so seriously that you’d make a tree cry.
And you want the freedom that comes from getting out of your own way and feeling empowered.
Freedom to change what needs changing in a way that reduces fear and is more like a gentle awakening.
Crossroads & Readiness
Leaders and other professionals work with me when the status quo becomes unacceptable and unbearable, or when opportunities come along that they want to seize.
They know it’s time to make a change and they are ready.
These are moments of transition.
They may be external life events such as retirement, promotion, an empty nest, divorce.
They might come as challenges in career, business, finances, family circumstances, retirement, marital status, partnerships, health or the loss of a loved one.
Sometimes it’s a sense that there has to be more to life and less inner suffering (yes, this is so possible).
You may desire greater well-being, confidence, peace of mind, joie-de-vivre and influence. Or, you may have a wish to leave a legacy, or be more creative and fulfilled.
Perhaps you simply need inspiration.
Are you at such a crossroads?
We are all worthy of a life that jazzes us up, is meaningful and YES, makes us happy to be alive.
Perhaps you feel stuck, unclear or uncertain about how to get what you long for.
Maybe it’s the next level in some aspect of your work or personal life.
No matter what the situation, readiness and willingness are key.
You must be sick of the situation you are in or driven by an urgent desire.
You must want it with all your heart.
An Inside-Out Adventure
One of the main reasons you would want to do deep inner work when you are in transition and craving that next level is for the freedom it brings.
Freedom to have thoughts that work for you and not against you, to make a difference, use your talents, be wildly creative, feel joy in your bones, lead your life wisely and to evolve.
Yes, to evolve as a human being.
To be the best you, so that at the end of this dear, short life, you can feel satisfied that you didn’t spend your time catering to your ego. Instead, you knew the difference and chose your higher wisdom.
Moreover, you grew into a wise, loving, conscious being and you did the best you could with what you had to spread goodness in your sphere of influence.
Our work is simple.
Together we discuss where you are and what you want, what’s working and what’s getting in your way.
Digging deep, we discover what matters most to you and the dream that goes with it. We meander in the dream.
We discover the thoughts, people, places and things that drain you, and then those that enhance your life.
Moving on, we consider what skills you might require for the next stage, who you’d have to become to reach that desire, and design a host of possible pathways there.
As we go on, you become clear about what is unique and truly special about you.
We weave in conversations about daily gentleness and other leadership practices.
You give yourself the attention and space you need so you can hear your wants, needs, thoughts and feelings regularly.
In touch with clear values, gentle power and a gut sense that you know what’s right for you, your life becomes a place of endless possibility and creativity.
Grounded in your own authority, your confidence and trust grow.
You’ll experiment with different ways of being and doing things.
Your innate resourcefulness will help you meet challenges with ease, knowing that you can create something useful from whatever comes your way.
You become a fierce stand and champion for yourself.
Helpful thoughts become easy choices and give you peace of mind. You let them settle down when they arise in unnecessary drama.
And you live from conscious awareness and wisdom rather than personality and ego.
Therein lies freedom.
How clear are you?
How is your uniqueness reflected in your life?
Are you living with courage and honesty?
Are you playing as big and boldly as you want, hiding nothing?
Will you make a difference or leave a legacy that matters to you?
Will you have few regrets?
Gentleness for a Kinder World
Gentleness is a powerful tool and way of being that allows us to develop resilience.
As we grow in the capacity to champion ourselves and others in a gentle and positive manner that builds confidence, our relationship with people and life changes radically.
When we strengthen this pattern, our experience of the world shifts.
Soon, the ability to access inner wisdom, empowerment and calm becomes natural.
Cultivating gentleness in thought and behaviour is completely possible.
You can choose this.
We humans are hard on ourselves and harsh with self-judgment.
Chastising ourselves for our deficits is a habit whose impact is the same as shouting at ourselves out loud. It’s traumatizing.
You wouldn’t like to hear someone treating your children, best friend or animals that way.
Day by day, in our imperfect human way, we can become what we intend for ourselves and lead from a heart of peace.
Our world needs that from us.
What kind of a life and world would it be if we approached ourselves and each other with tenderness, compassion and gentleness?
Unique & Different
The more you are yourself, the more you experience your inner strength, power, joy and confidence.
Would it surprise you to know that being even more yourself is the secret to your sense of confidence and well-being?
Your differences and uniqueness are your uncommon advantage.
By turning up the volume on who you are rather than playing small or being like others, you create more dynamism and opportunity than you know.
Organizations, institutions, your community and the world are not looking for more of the same.
They are looking for something unique.
Your value doesn’t come from putting a lid on who you are.
It’s about discovering more of you and daring to put it out there.
If you’ve spent your whole life around systems and have stifled yourself as so many of us have, you may be out of touch with what’s you.
I get that.
Happiness is multidimensional and begins with understanding yourself deeply and taking steps to shine, not hide.
Instead of reading one more book, listening to one more speaker, joining one more group, you turn to yourself to find your own authentic way to a life you love. There’s nothing wrong with life-long learning, and there’s a time to create and express more than you take in.
It is possible to trust yourself.
Lead – As Big or As Small as You Want
As loud or as quiet.
But lead you will.
Whether you know you are doing it or not – you are.
We are all the leaders of our lives and we all have an impact of the people around us.
You get to make it conscious and intentional, to lead from your deepest human values and to take responsibility.
There are different ways of being a leader.
You can learn what those ways are and relax into yourself.
Your way is the way that fits and suits you.
Make A Difference
Connecting to what is most important to us wholeheartedly, openly and authentically and making a meaningful contribution are deep human desires. It’s normal to want that.
Imagine being aligned with your values, in integrity with yourself and comfortable expressing who you are, freely and easily.
Imagine being able to depend on yourself and to live with gentle power and wise courage.
And imagine knowing your deep worthiness and connecting easily with others.
This is part of the human journey of individuation, wholeness and choice.
You choose the difference you want to make and go for it.
There is a natural inner guidance that you can trust any time if you pay attention.
It becomes your best friend, guide and lifelong resource of practical wisdom.
A reminder that you are more than your personality and ego.
Rediscovering your own inner, unique compass – your own heartbeat – will bring you back home.
There is a depth, sacredness and mystery in all of us if we listen for it.
If there is any aspect of your life where you are not being truly you, then you may be feeling a lack of joy and happiness and even physical discomfort.
If you are not finding the magic – your magic – in daily living, connecting with your true self is the key.
There is no reason to remain disappointed or downhearted about any area of your life.
When you navigate from your inner compass, what’s right for you becomes obvious and you begin to lead a creative, impactful, resonant life that is more closely and authentically you.
Can you imagine what our lives and workplaces would be like if people felt light-hearted, alive and inspired much of the time?
Some of us learned to be buttoned-up, serious, stiff and glum.
We called that professional.
You don’t need a formal title from an organization or permission from anyone to be a leader.
You are already the leader of your life, responsible for it.
Best of all, you can be the leader of your life and be whimsical, fun and most of all – joyful, because creative leadership feels playful, fun and energizing.
Creativity and innovation go hand-in-hand.
Do you want to make a difference in your life, your work, your private or public world?
You can connect with your most natural and compelling self and find your aliveness and talent.
By adding imagination and creativity to your life, you’ll watch ease begin to emerge.
You can be a responsible adult and smile.
You can transform your life and your work and make life sing. Freedom lies ahead.
New perspectives, new thoughts, and your own wisdom will get you there.
Thank you to Lisa McLoughlin for the exquisite artwork gracing these pages.